Tears

19 Apr

When that person you love says something hurtful to you.  When that life you dreamed of goes a totally different route.  When you feel like you have neglected the greatest responsibilty that Allah bestowed upon you.  When the weight of the world gets too much for you to handle…make wudu, pray two rakah and elongate your sujood and cry and cry and cry.  That crying in sujood is positive, that crying will lead you to depend solely on your Creator, that crying will lead you to find out about Allah’s names, to be in love with His names, to be in love with His book, and to be in love with the messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم) who carried out His book in his mannerism.  This crying will lighten your heart, will give you the strength to face whatever He gave you and will make you ever so grateful to be His slave.

Acceptance

5 Feb

acceptanceAfter 5 years of marriage, I’ve come to realize that in order to have a happy marriage there must be acceptance.  Learning to accept your spouse’s personality and habits without wanting to change it is one of the keys to a happy household.  I’ve learned to accept that the hubby will panic when he can’t find his way.  I’ve learned to accept that he is highly sensitive to what others think or say.  I’ve learned to accept that the best way to bring up a point is to show him rather than talk to him about it.  I’ve learned to accept that we are so different in so many ways yet so alike as well.  I’ve learned to accept this and many other things.  This acceptance comes from the realization of the fact that both of us have chosen to be in this marriage.  In this day and age where we both have economic freedom, and other freedoms there’s nothing really that is forcing us to be together.  We want to be together and when we let go of this expectation of our spouse acting/reacting/being a certain way, and we just accept them for who they are, a beautiful thing happens, they begin to accept us and give us exactly what we have been looking for in this partnership called marriage.  What had you learned from your married life? Please share.  The longer you are married, the more you have to share :)

Reflections #1 Parenting

9 Oct

People always blame the parents especially the mother when the kids misbehave.  Yet when the kids are successful they forget to give credit to the parents and often credit the kids themselves for their success.  This is similar to our relationship with Allah at times.  We we are able to do good we praise ourselves yet when we fall short or fall into sin we blame Allah for not giving us the opportunity to do good or we blame shaytan for his waswasas.  

Reflections from the Operating Room

12 Jul

This year so far has been a crazy one to say the least, alhamdulillah for everything. It took a turn when I found out my dad needed bypass surgery earlier this year. Knowing your father will go through a procedure in which surgeons take his heart out and put it on a machine, it makes you realize how everything is truly in Allah’s power. Being in the waiting room for roughly 5-6 hours during the surgery with my heart pounding in my head, my mind racing with what was going on and what could happen, it was frightening to not know anything. I saw surgeons come out from the operating room and talk to family members to tell them one of two things; the surgery went well, or the surgery was complicated and they’re working on it. image

My mother and sisters had so much anxiety and kept praying that the doctor would tell us the better news that the surgery went well. When the doctor came out and told us that Alhamdulillah it went well, I felt so secure in the fact that Allah was helping us out. He made it all happen. In those brief hours we were not in control but He watched out for us in the end. I have never felt such gratitude towards Allah in my life then I did that day. And that was the point that I realized we aren’t in control of anything. We never were and we never will be. Whatever is a test or whatever is good is coming from God. And He knows why He’s doing this, all we can do as His servants is pray to Him and trust in Him. Sometimes you have to put your life on the line and know that Allah will take care of you in the end. My dad is much better now Alhamdulillah. The road to recovery was really tough on him and us. We had to watch him learn how to breathe strong again, with hundreds of tubes and extreme pain in his body. It was difficult but Alhamdulillah I think it made all of us become more grateful to Allah, more trusting in Him, and more hopeful for our future.

This helped me make decisions in my life that I would have been scared to make before, and this helped me take chances that I would never consider taking before, like getting married and moving across the country to live a new life. That reflection will come in my next post.. Until then, be strong in your faith in God, He’ll take care of you no matter what inshaAllah.

Ramadan Mubarak

12 Jul

From all of us here at H Sisters, we wish you a happy Ramadan. May Allah put barakah in your time, sweetness in your words, and happiness in your heart. Ameen

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6 Nov

“Do not take someone’s silence as his pride, perhaps he is busy fighting with his self.”

- Ali ibn Abi Talib (r)

Why Marriage is Awesome

30 Oct

1. It gives you security …that same secure feeling you felt when growing up in your parents’ house, over time you feel that feeling with your spouse.

2.  You are always learning.  Through good times and bad you are constantly learning about the other person and about yourself.

3.  It makes you grow.  Having the best Ikhlaq with your spouse is so much harder than having it with others. Hence you learn to work on your character and it makes you grow into a better person inshaAllah.

4.  You have someone to go everywhere with.  Remember that trip you wanted to take to see that one place, well now you can go there with someone and enjoy it. 

5. It gives you confidence.  A supporting spouse really boosts your confidence level and can help you accomplish many things which you thought you couldn’t do before.

6. It brings you back to reality!  Hollywood/bollywood movies got nothing on real life.  Marriage pushes you to live in this world and that if you really want a beautiful life with no sadness, you would have to work for jannah!

7.  It can be a source for you to see the fruit of your heart…i.e your children.

And there are many more wisdoms behind marriage, most of course are clear solely to Allah.  But there is a reason why marriage is highly encouraged in Islam, so don’t delay this sunnah and if possible get married as soon as possible to a pious person with a beautiful character.

Teaching Kids the Quran

30 Oct

I remember learning the Quran as something academic; something I had to learn to read as a Muslim.  It was never explained to me WHY I was learning to read this, nor was it explained to me what this book actually was.  Most of us grew up this way through no fault of those who raised us.  We learned how to read the Quran but never did we learn that it was the guidance for our life, never was the relationship with the quran stressed.  We learned the Quran from people who had memorized the Quran but didn’t necessarily understand it, or had a relationship with it themselves. Hence many times we were threatend with punishment if we didn’t read it correctly.  As my son begins to hit the age of three and as I start to figure out how I am going to teach him, there are some things in my mind that I have promised to do/or not do when it comes to teaching the Quran.  Here’s a list of those:

1.  I must love the Quran, have a relationship with the Quran and understand its importance in order to teach my kids to love this book and turn to it for Guidance.  Have you ever taken a class from a professor that really loves what he is teaching?  If you have you will realize that when they love it, it is so easy to love learning it even if it is not a subject that you like.  This is how I want my kids to learn and I want them to be around teachers who teach them because they love the Quran themselves.

2.  The Quran can never be taught by threatening the kids with punishment if they don’t get their words right.  Wouldn’t it be better if we instead told the kids about the hadith that there is reward even for the one who struggles with his pronounciation of the Quran? in fact that person’s reward is more since he is struggling to learn the word of Allah.  What a beautiful motivator for the kids.

3.  The Quran must be taught in a beautiful environment.  There’s got to be a place in the house that’s like serene, beautiful and comfortable where we teach our kids the Quran.  They will want to stay longer in a this beautiful enviornment instead of wanting to finish everything fast so they can relax in their room.

4.  The meaning and the Why’s of the Quran should be taught.  Why are we learning this book? After we learn to read it correctly how do we use it in our personal lives? etc, etc.   Kids are full of questions, they should know the heavy weight of what they are learning and have all their why questions answered.  Also after the everyday lesson of reading in arabic, at least a half hour should be spent on the meaning/tafseer of it.

That’s my starting point for now, I’m sure I’ll be adding more as I actually start this journey inshaAllah.  May Allah make it easy for me to teach this book with sincerity and may Allah make it easy for our children to sincerely learn this book and to love it and turn to it in every situation.  Ameen!

Hope, Fear, and Love

22 Oct

People are encouraged to follow Islam through 3 main feelings: Hope, Fear, and Love. 

There are some verses in the Quran that talk about how beautiful Jannah is, how much happiness you will find there, how you will never feel a second of bad feelings in your heart. This makes you want to seek that, to try your best to attain Jannah. This is hope.

There are other verses in the Quran that detail how harsh the Hellfire is, what happens to your body in the grave if you disobey, how badly you will regret your sins if you disobey. This makes you want to seek forgiveness, and try your best to avoid doing these sins. This is Fear.

Finally, there are those Names of Allah that you will learn about, that describe Who your Lord really is. What characteristics He has that makes him the Almighty, and the All-forgiving. Through this, you will be in awe of how He really is with His servants. Through finding those little blessings in your life, you will begin to appreciate Him. This is love.

Your heart is like a bird. One wing is Hope. The other wing is Fear. The head of the bird, is Love. (Ibn Al-Qayyim, Madarij al-Salikin)

Love is the most important thing you can teach someone if you want them to follow the right path. Fear and Hope will just assist that Love and help to maintain a balance, but Love is the ultimate factor that pushes them towards the right direction, and that initiates the wings of Hope and Fear to keep on flying.

Have hope in what your Lord has promised you if you try your best to do Good. Have fear in those punishments he has promised the disobedient, and try your best to refrain from bad. But most importantly, Love your Creator for Who He is, for what He has done for you, and what He has provided you with. That will carry you through the skies, and ensure your journey to the best path. 

21 Aug

Eid Mubarak Everyone :)

An Indian Muslim boy leans to rub noses with a girl as they are both dressed up for Eid al-Fitr (the end of Ramadan) prayers at the Jama Masjid in New Delhi, India, Aug. 20, 2012.

 

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