Pini (A somewhat healthy Pakistani desert recipe)

These are little tiny balls that resemble ladoo but are darker and more like a chocolate ladoo without chocolate.  I am very particular about my sweets, i like things with texture and not too much sugar and whenever possible I like nutty.

3 cups flaxseed

3 cups flour (all purpose or whole wheat)

2 cups brown sugar

1 cup water

2 cups chopped almond

1.5 cup ghee or oil (I would go for 1 cup next time I make this)

brown the flaxseed on the stove.  in another pot add oil and flour and brown that until it gives a beautiful aroma.  Add the flaxseed and chopped almonds to the flour pot and mix.  In a separate pot mix the brown sugar and water and wait for it to start boiling and get a bit thick, then let that cool down a little and add it to the flour mixture.  Wait a few minutes and then make small rounded balls and enjoy one with chai everyday.  Garnish with coconut flakes (optional).

Gratitude post #1

It’s been a while since any of us sisters posted.  I am going to try and change that.  Everynight I will try to blog about the things I am grateful for in an effort to become a more positive, happy person and to maybe have my readers thinking about the things they are grateful for.  Allah says in the Quran “if you are grateful I will give you more” so bismillah

1.  two days ago, my eldest Belal wore his papa’s jacket and was loving it.  He looked so cute mashaAllah and I can tell he felt like he was an adult with that jacket,  Below is a picture.  I love being a mom and watching this stage of their childhood.  It’s so innocent and full of beautiful surprises.


2.  Yesterday I asked Belal “Belal do you like girls” He said “yes I like just one girl” and I asked him ‘who’ and he said patting my head “this one.”

3.  This morning Belal came down and Hassen had been awake for an hour and Hassen went up to him and said “Belal kiya hua (Belal what happened)” Belal said “kuch bhi nahi (nothing)” and then he asked  “were you missing me Hassen?” and Hassen nodded and the two brothers went off to play.

10 Ways Ego Causes Downfall of Your Marital Life – Sh. Yaser Birjas


I attended a very beneficial session by Shaykh Yaser Birjas during this past ICNA 2014 in Baltimore, Maryland. Below are my notes on the 10 ways ego can cause downfall of your marital life by Shaykh Yaser Birjas. May you find benefit in them. Ameen!

1. Ego will make you half-blind

You only see your side of the story and you’re not ready to see the other half of the truth. In order to open your mind, give it a chance and expect yourself to be wrong.

2. Ego will make you a bitter arguer

This will cause a bitter cycle of who’s right and who’s wrong. The argument is no longer about the actual argument, but whether or not you can prove that you are right even when you’re not.

3. Ego makes you look selfish/arrogant

You will not care about the other person anymore because you’re more worried about keeping your ego in tact.

4. Ego can make you resist positive changes

There are times in life where you have to make major decisions. You can end up making the wrong decisions solely because of your ego.

5. Ego can make the problem last longer

This point was emphasized more than the rest, because at times this is the cause of recurring arguments. You can make an issue last longer or perpetuate the issue over and over only because of your ego.

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When that person you love says something hurtful to you.  When that life you dreamed of goes a totally different route.  When you feel like you have neglected the greatest responsibilty that Allah bestowed upon you.  When the weight of the world gets too much for you to handle…make wudu, pray two rakah and elongate your sujood and cry and cry and cry.  That crying in sujood is positive; that crying will lead you to depend solely on your Creator; that crying will lead you to find out about Allah’s names, to be in love with His names, to be in love with His book, and to be in love with the messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم) who carried out His book in his mannerism.  This crying will lighten your heart, will give you the strength to face whatever He gave you and will make you ever so grateful to be His slave.


acceptanceAfter 5 years of marriage, I’ve come to realize that in order to have a happy marriage there must be acceptance.  Learning to accept your spouse’s personality and habits without wanting to change it is one of the keys to a happy household.  I’ve learned to accept that the hubby will panic when he can’t find his way.  I’ve learned to accept that he is highly sensitive to what others think or say.  I’ve learned to accept that the best way to bring up a point is to show him rather than talk to him about it.  I’ve learned to accept that we are so different in so many ways yet so alike as well.  I’ve learned to accept this and many other things.  This acceptance comes from the realization of the fact that both of us have chosen to be in this marriage.  In this day and age where we both have economic freedom, and other freedoms there’s nothing really that is forcing us to be together.  We want to be together and when we let go of this expectation of our spouse acting/reacting/being a certain way, and we just accept them for who they are, a beautiful thing happens, they begin to accept us and give us exactly what we have been looking for in this partnership called marriage.  What had you learned from your married life? Please share.  The longer you are married, the more you have to share :)

Reflections #1- Parenting

People always blame the parents especially the mother when the kids misbehave.  Yet when the kids are successful they forget to give credit to the parents and often credit the kids themselves for their success.  This is similar to our relationship with Allah at times.  We we are able to do good we praise ourselves yet when we fall short or fall into sin we blame Allah for not giving us the opportunity to do good or we blame shaytan for his waswasas.  


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