Gratitude – The Sweet Moments in Life

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I wanted to write and document the things that I am grateful for in an effort to try to become a more positive, happy person.  Allah says in the Quran “If you are grateful, I will give you more.” so here goes! Bismillah….

1.  Two days ago, my eldest son, Belal, wore his father’s jacket and was absolutely loving it.  Aside from looking adorable mashaAllah, I could tell he felt like an adult with that jacket, and proud to be one judging by the smile on his face.  It made me realize how much I love being a mom and watching this stage of my kids’ childhood.  It’s so innocent and full of beautiful surprises. Below is a picture of this moment: Continue reading

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When that person you love says something hurtful to you.  When that life you dreamed of goes a totally different route.  When you feel like you have neglected the greatest responsibilty that Allah bestowed upon you.  When the weight of the world gets too much for you to handle…make wudu, pray two rakah and elongate your sujood and cry and cry and cry.  That crying in sujood is positive; that crying will lead you to depend solely on your Creator; that crying will lead you to find out about Allah’s names, to be in love with His names, to be in love with His book, and to be in love with the messenger (صلى الله عليه و سلم) who carried out His book in his mannerism.  This crying will lighten your heart, will give you the strength to face whatever He gave you and will make you ever so grateful to be His slave.

Accepting Your Spouse for Who They Are

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“You don’t need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.”

After 5 years of marriage, I’ve come to realize that in order to have a happy marriage there must be acceptance.  Learning to accept your spouse’s personality and habits without wanting to change it is one of the keys to a happy household.  I’ve learned to accept that the best way to bring up a point is to show him rather than talk to him about it.  I’ve learned to accept that we are so different in so many ways yet so alike as well.  I’ve learned to accept this and many other things.  This acceptance comes from the realization of the fact that both of us have chosen to be in this marriage.  In this day and age where we both have economic freedom, and other freedoms there’s nothing really that is forcing us to be together.  We want to be together and when we let go of this expectation of our spouse acting/reacting/being a certain way, and we just accept them for who they are, a beautiful thing happens, they begin to accept us and give us exactly what we have been looking for in this partnership called marriage.  What had you learned from your married life? Please share.  The longer you are married, the more you have to share 🙂

Reflections from the Operating Room

This year so far has been a crazy one to say the least, but alhamdulillah for everything. It took a turn when I found out my dad needed bypass surgery earlier this year. Knowing your father will go through a procedure in which surgeons take his heart out and put it on a machine, it makes you realize how everything is truly in Allah’s power. Being in the waiting room for roughly 5-6 hours during the surgery with my heart pounding in my head, my mind racing with what was going on and what could happen…it was frightening to not know anything about what could possible be going on in there. What could the doctors be doing right now? This is a life and death type of surgery, I remember thinking. I have never had my heart as heavy as I did that day. The entire morning before the surgery when we were getting him checked in, he didn’t smile at all, of course he was stressed and worried. But when my dad being wheeled in to prep for his surgery, he waved at us and gave us a faint smile.  I kept remembering that smile the entire time in the waiting room. I saw surgeons come out from the operating room and talk to family members to tell them one of two things; the surgery went well, or the surgery was complicated and they’re working on it. 
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7 Benefits of Being Married

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1. It gives you a sense of security …that same secure feeling you felt when growing up in your parents’ house, over time you feel that with your spouse.

2.  You are always learning.  Through good times and bad you are constantly learning about the other person and about yourself.

3.  It makes you grow.  Having the best Ikhlaq (manners) with your spouse is so much harder than having it with others. Hence you learn to work on your character and it makes you grow into a better person inshaAllah. Continue reading

Teaching Kids the Quran

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I remember learning the Quran as something academic; something I had to learn to read as a Muslim.  It was never explained to me WHY I was learning to read this, nor was it explained to me what this book actually was.  Most of us grew up this way through no fault of those who raised us.  We learned how to read the Quran but never did we learn that it was the guidance for our life, never was the relationship with the quran stressed.  We learned the Quran from people who had memorized the Quran but didn’t necessarily understand it, or had a relationship with it themselves. Hence many times we were threatend with punishment if we didn’t read it correctly.  As my son begins to hit the age of three and as I start to figure out how I am going to teach him, there are some things in my mind that I have promised to do/or not do when it comes to teaching the Quran.  Here’s a list of those:

1.  I must love the Quran, have a relationship with the Quran and understand its importance in order to teach my kids to love this book and turn to it for Guidance.  Have you ever taken a class from a professor that really loves what he is teaching?  If you have you will realize that when they love it, it is so easy to love learning it even if it is not a subject that you like.  This is how I want my kids to learn and I want them to be around teachers who teach them because they love the Quran themselves. Continue reading

Hope, Fear, and Love

People are encouraged to follow Islam through 3 main feelings: Hope, Fear, and Love. 

There are some verses in the Quran that talk about how beautiful Jannah is, how much happiness you will find there, how you will never feel a second of bad feelings in your heart. This makes you want to seek that, to try your best to attain Jannah. This is hope.

There are other verses in the Quran that detail how harsh the Hellfire is, what happens to your body in the grave if you disobey, how badly you will regret your sins if you disobey. This makes you want to seek forgiveness, and try your best to avoid doing these sins. This is Fear.

Finally, there are those Names of Allah that you will learn about, that describe Who your Lord really is. What characteristics He has that makes him the Almighty, and the All-forgiving. Through this, you will be in awe of how He really is with His servants. Through finding those little blessings in your life, you will begin to appreciate Him. This is love.

Your heart is like a bird. One wing is Hope. The other wing is Fear. The head of the bird, is Love. (Ibn Al-Qayyim, Madarij al-Salikin)

Love is the most important thing you can teach someone if you want them to follow the right path. Fear and Hope will just assist that Love and help to maintain a balance, but Love is the ultimate factor that pushes them towards the right direction, and that initiates the wings of Hope and Fear to keep on flying.

Have hope in what your Lord has promised you if you try your best to do Good. Have fear in those punishments he has promised the disobedient, and try your best to refrain from bad. But most importantly, Love your Creator for Who He is, for what He has done for you, and what He has provided you with. That will carry you through the skies, and ensure your journey to the best path. 

Did I Do Enough?

One morning, as I lay in bed after Suhoor, my eyes were wanting to go to sleep but my mind was still awake. I remember the night before my sister spoke to me about wanting to go to the park by my house after Sehri and check out the sunrise. Our park has this “preserved wetlands” and walking trail right by it, where there are no buildings or houses built, just a huge chunk of land with trees; a perfect spot to see the sunrise. So finally I got over my laziness, kicked back the covers, put on my hoodie and set out to watch the sun rise. It was a Friday morning, the air was crisp and the sky was clear. The sunrise was incredible. 

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The next one I got to capture was the morning after the 27th of Ramadan.  I wanted to check out if the sun was just like the way the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam described it would be after Laylatul Qadr. Continue reading