7 Benefits of Being Married

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1. It gives you a sense of security …that same secure feeling you felt when growing up in your parents’ house, over time you feel that with your spouse.

2.  You are always learning.  Through good times and bad you are constantly learning about the other person and about yourself.

3.  It makes you grow.  Having the best Ikhlaq (manners) with your spouse is so much harder than having it with others. Hence you learn to work on your character and it makes you grow into a better person inshaAllah. Continue reading

Teaching Kids the Quran

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I remember learning the Quran as something academic; something I had to learn to read as a Muslim.  It was never explained to me WHY I was learning to read this, nor was it explained to me what this book actually was.  Most of us grew up this way through no fault of those who raised us.  We learned how to read the Quran but never did we learn that it was the guidance for our life, never was the relationship with the quran stressed.  We learned the Quran from people who had memorized the Quran but didn’t necessarily understand it, or had a relationship with it themselves. Hence many times we were threatend with punishment if we didn’t read it correctly.  As my son begins to hit the age of three and as I start to figure out how I am going to teach him, there are some things in my mind that I have promised to do/or not do when it comes to teaching the Quran.  Here’s a list of those:

1.  I must love the Quran, have a relationship with the Quran and understand its importance in order to teach my kids to love this book and turn to it for Guidance.  Have you ever taken a class from a professor that really loves what he is teaching?  If you have you will realize that when they love it, it is so easy to love learning it even if it is not a subject that you like.  This is how I want my kids to learn and I want them to be around teachers who teach them because they love the Quran themselves. Continue reading

Hope, Fear, and Love

People are encouraged to follow Islam through 3 main feelings: Hope, Fear, and Love. 

There are some verses in the Quran that talk about how beautiful Jannah is, how much happiness you will find there, how you will never feel a second of bad feelings in your heart. This makes you want to seek that, to try your best to attain Jannah. This is hope.

There are other verses in the Quran that detail how harsh the Hellfire is, what happens to your body in the grave if you disobey, how badly you will regret your sins if you disobey. This makes you want to seek forgiveness, and try your best to avoid doing these sins. This is Fear.

Finally, there are those Names of Allah that you will learn about, that describe Who your Lord really is. What characteristics He has that makes him the Almighty, and the All-forgiving. Through this, you will be in awe of how He really is with His servants. Through finding those little blessings in your life, you will begin to appreciate Him. This is love.

Your heart is like a bird. One wing is Hope. The other wing is Fear. The head of the bird, is Love. (Ibn Al-Qayyim, Madarij al-Salikin)

Love is the most important thing you can teach someone if you want them to follow the right path. Fear and Hope will just assist that Love and help to maintain a balance, but Love is the ultimate factor that pushes them towards the right direction, and that initiates the wings of Hope and Fear to keep on flying.

Have hope in what your Lord has promised you if you try your best to do Good. Have fear in those punishments he has promised the disobedient, and try your best to refrain from bad. But most importantly, Love your Creator for Who He is, for what He has done for you, and what He has provided you with. That will carry you through the skies, and ensure your journey to the best path. 

Did I Do Enough?

One morning, as I lay in bed after Suhoor, my eyes were wanting to go to sleep but my mind was still awake. I remember the night before my sister spoke to me about wanting to go to the park by my house after Sehri and check out the sunrise. Our park has this “preserved wetlands” and walking trail right by it, where there are no buildings or houses built, just a huge chunk of land with trees; a perfect spot to see the sunrise. So finally I got over my laziness, kicked back the covers, put on my hoodie and set out to watch the sun rise. It was a Friday morning, the air was crisp and the sky was clear. The sunrise was incredible. 

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The next one I got to capture was the morning after the 27th of Ramadan.  I wanted to check out if the sun was just like the way the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam described it would be after Laylatul Qadr. Continue reading

Ramadan Mubarak!

As I recall the story of our Beloved Prophet (SAW) and the deaths of two of the most closest people to him, I am reminded of the reason that year was called the year of grief. Our Prophet (SAW), someone so purely gentle, lost his loving and loyal wife Khadijah (R). He lost the woman he ran to for comfort after being terrified of his first encounter with Angel Jibreel (A). He lost the woman who instead of sitting depressed alongside her husband, gave him strength by reminding him, “Allah will not forsake you.” He lost his love, his security, and the mother of his children.

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Within a short span of time from a wound still fresh, he was afflicted with another tragedy, the death of his uncle Abu Talib. This man was his security outside his home, without whim he would never be safe to practice the true religion of Allah. He grew up with his uncle and spent such a long part of his life with him, but he lost him to the blazing fire below his feet. To lose a close family member, one is always worried about their afterlife. One hopes and prays for their forgiveness for the one they lost. But our dear Prophet (SAW) wasn’t uncertain because he knew his uncle died a disbeliever. And this was a bigger loss. Continue reading

Quran Weekly Notes

Just watched a Quran Weekly video by Nouman Ali Khan and thought I’d transcribe it here for my own notes. Feel free to read and may it benefit you as it did me:

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وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا ۖ إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا (Surah Al ‘Isra’, Verse 32).

Wala taqraboo azzinainnahu kana fahishatan wasaa sabeela

“Do not draw near to fornication, for it is an indecency, and its way is evil.”

This ayah belongs to a passage in the Quran that are kind of the equivalent to the ten commandments, and some Sahaba called them the equivalent of what the essential teachings that were given to Musa alahyi salam.

In this particular ayah, Allah says don’t even go near fornication (zina). He doesn’t say la ta zinuhu, which means “don’t do adultery” or “commit adultery”, He says don’t go near it. In other words, there’s the act itself and then there is a series of smaller acts that lead to it, it’s got a perimeter around it, and you can’t even go close to it. One has to understand the language of the Qur’an and the sensitivity in which it deals with this subject, to appreciate the wisdom of Allah azza wa jal and how he’s counseling us in dealing with this problem. He is telling us there are certain things that in and of themselves are not “haram”, you’re not going to be able to pinpoint them and say “it is wrong”. But, when you get involved it in, you’re going to get sucked into a gravitational field, and it will pull you in slowly and surely, little by little and eventually, it will get you.

Gem #1: The Command of Shaytan

One of the things we learned about Shaytan, that is remarkable, is that he’s extremely patient. He won’t get you in one shot. He’ll come at you and put a little bit and a little bit until he destroys your character. He won’t come and make you do the wrong thing right away. Even in the story of Adam alayhi salam and Hawwa, in Surah al Araf the way the Shaytan approached them was really interesting because he was extremely relentless. He didn’t just approach them once. He kept at it and he built this idea in them until they would think it’s their idea. This is the same surah in which Allah says “My slaves, you’re not going to have any authority over them” (referring to the inability of Shaytan having any authority over Allah’s salves). In other words, people who really submit to Allah, shaytan will not have authority over them. But for others, Shaytan will command you to do shamelessness.

When you listen to him a little bit, you’ve granted him a little bit of power. When you listen to him a little more, you’ve granted him a little more power. And if you keep on listening to him, he gets to the point where he can command you. You will find yourself helpless and addicted to doing or committing shamelessness. When you see yourself not even being able to control your gaze, or what you watch on the internet or which chat rooms you log into, it will be then when you know that the Shaytan has a pretty solid hold on you.

Gem #2: Hard Heart

Every time you’re exposed to filth, more dirt, more blackness are poured on top of your heart and it keeps on pouring to the point where you listen to the word of Allah and you can’t even shed a single tear. It won’t come, because your heart has been made so hard through all the exposure to filth and all the sin that your eyes are taking in all the time. You won’t even care anymore. A good heart, when it sees something inappropriate, something that doesn’t coincide with the commandments of Allah, it is disturbed. It’s not attracted, it squirms. It says no, that’s wrong. Immediately the conscience kicks in, the alarm goes off. But when you’re at the point when you’re by yourself and you feel no guilt doing it. the only thing you might be thinking when you stare at a sister for example, would be to look around and check if someone was watching you do it. The only fear you have left is for the seeing, there’s no more fear for the unseen anymore. Allah swt knows the stealing of the eyes, the little glance you caught. He knows what the chests are hiding.

This particular ayah, He describes zina as fahisha, which has always been considered a leud, shameless act. Wasaa sabeela means He describes it as an evil path. In other words, a path is made up of steps. You have to identify which step you’re in. For most of you this is a process, this is a cycle. Whether it is that you’re in a room by yourself, or you have a couple hours before your parents come home, or you’re among a couple of friends that don’t have any standards. You have to identify what leads you to this sin every time and you have to cut in its tracks.

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5 Tips on How to Treat Pregnant Women

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

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You visit the doctor early in the moring and wait for what seems like the longest 15 minutes when the doctor finally gives you the good news that you are expecting!  “Alhamdullilah!” you say and smile at your husband.  You are excited and can’t wait to begin this new adventure.  However as the pregnancy progresses, you are shocked at the hurtful and sometimes rude comments made by other women who have gone through this stage in their life.  The sympathy, care and sensitivity you were expecting from other women is absent, and at times it can only be found in close family members.  Casual comments made with a smirk such as “Can you believe how big you have gotten?” leave you in tears.  Continue reading

Reminders

I shall tell you four things which people generally are guilty of:

1) Criticizing and accusing people. This brings about negligence in the execution of Allah’s laws.

2) Jealousy for the progress of a Muslim. This leads to ingratitude.

3) Accumulation of haraam (unlawful) assets. This causes forgetfulness of the Aakhirah (hereafter).

4) To become careless regarding the warnings of Allah Ta’ala and to lose hope in His promises. This lead to kufr (Unbelief).

Sufyaan at Thauri said to Hadhrat Haatim